Do you prefer to act first and think later, or think first and then act?
I’m an intuitive doer, that loves to reflect in order to improve until the next time. It might seem like a bad thing to act first and think later. But over the years I’ve noticed that as long as I take my time to reflect, a lot, it’s been working out really well for me. Reflection is key to learn and understand why something happened, the reason for a certain outcome. And I love to reflect!
So it’s a pretty effective combination, like a high paced trial and error. This method does however guarantee that you will fail, often. It might not be big failures, and it might not even seem like a negative outcome. But it might be a failure as compared to how perfect it might have been the first time. Perfection doesn’t really interest me. I’m more driven by progress, development, change and impact. If that leads to perfection in the end it’s a great bonus!
Failing in the terms of not reaching the expected outcome is something I have to deal with. I never consider myself to have failed indefinitely though. I might have had to redo an exam or apologized for a bold comment. But as long as I reflect and adapt my strategy, I don’t consider that I’ve failed at something in the long run. Just understand why, and at it again until the desired result is achieved. And if you reflect often enough, and try again, you will succeed. I reflect daily at work for a short period of time, each night before I sleep and for an entire week (during our trainee weeks) each month.
I also think it’s important to understand that it’s okay to be afraid of failing, it’s not really that fun! It’s good to feel pressure to succeed. The trick is to be brave enough to try anyway, despite the fear. To give yourself some slack in order to have the space and opportunity to grab new challenges, and conquer the seemingly impossible. One high heeled step at a time.